More Link Love

I should say self love because I am linking to a post that praises me and C. Forgive the touch of narcissism, but C and I have worked damn hard to be where we are in our relationship, and it is an on-going challenge. One we face with pleasure, for pleasure, but a challenge nonetheless. Being poly, swinging, scene-ing, all the things we do or try to do, can work with a strong foundation of love and trust. So, I think our new friends Deliciously Naughty and her Sexyhusband will be just fine!

Published in: on February 24, 2008 at 1:32 pm  Comments (1)  
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Welcome to my Blogroll: Another Omnivore

I haven’t added anything to my Blogroll in a while. Frankly, I have so many blogs to read it is hard to find time to introduce new ones. But I just had to add Notes of an Omnivore, to my reading list and to my Blogroll. Hot, pansexual, beautifully-written posts to warm this pervert’s nether regions. He doesn’t post very often, but is worth the wait. This very naughty note had me wiggling in my seat.

Published in: on February 24, 2008 at 12:52 pm  Comments (1)  
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Sugasm #119

This Week’s Picks

The Rule of Blowjobs for Women

“Tease. Spend time. Don’t just start out like a Hoover on overdrive.”

Commercialising Romance or “I bought you this card now where’s my blowjob?”

“If it takes a specific date for your partner to show you he loves you then what do you have?”


“She smiled up at him, from her vantage point between his knees, and continued what she’d been doing.”

Mr. Sugasm Himself


Editor’s Choice

Hazards of the Biz

Erotic Writing and Experiences

Catalina loves Fantasies (about Friends)

Clit Notes


Erin with a capital oooaaaaahhh

I saw and I came!

I will take Pancakes with a side of Camel Toe!

No Special Occasion

Phantom Fire

A Promise Kept

Quickie in men’s room


The Reunion (Part I)


Wake me up with your tongue a Friday night bedtime story

Sex Advice

The 3 Best Positions for MFM Threesomes

I Didn’t Use a Condom

Sex News, Reviews & Interviews

The Bedpost Interview: Lux Alptraum

Cop Seduced By Hot Tranny & Forced To Suck Cock

Njoy fun wand

Ode to my hitachi magic wand

Screaming Orgasm from Mr Vacuum

Review: Working Sex, Sex Workers Write About a Changing Industry

Stoya Bot HotMovies Interview

Texas Make Up For Lost Time With FREE Sex Toys!

Thoughts on Sex and Relationships

Feminist Carnival #53

Of Lust, Loss, Film Stars & Humor (Or, Get Me On Vince’s Bus)

Polyamory is SCARY!

Sex Work

Pictures from Last Night: Playing Dress Up

BDSM & Fetish

Dark Hearts…A BDSM Fantasy

The Empty Gas Tank – my first spanking video!

Gabriel, and self realization

I Love

Losing my virginity…with canes WF #4

She likes to feel pretty.

Shoe Slut

Smutty Talk


Sex Humor

How To Tell If That Domme You’re Emailing Is Really A Man

How Do You Explain It?

Unusual And Tasteless Gifts For Valentine’s Day

NSFW Pics, Videos & Audio

Black lips suck cock the best

Fetish Model January Seraph Is Tied To A Table Top

The Heart knows it’s presence, Unbound


Kristyna – Funny Shave

Kyla Cole

Met Art: Lisa, Sharon & Jenya; Monika; Valleria; Vika

My reading on YouTube

Nude by Didier Carre

The Red HNT

Satine Phoenix Is A Feminine Feline Fantasy In This Corset And Collar

Published in: on February 21, 2008 at 1:08 am  Leave a Comment  
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Clit Notes

I’ve been thinking a lot about my clit.

As I play with more new partners, I continue to search for the best words and images to help them understand what I like best, what actually brings me to orgasm. When I was a little girl, long before I knew what I was doing, I masturbated by squeezing my legs together, one leg wrapped around the other. As I matured, I tried other methods, turning household objects into sex toys, using my fingers, but I always returned to squeezing my legs in increasing pulses of muscle clenches. It always delivered that amazing feeling that I was wanted.

When I started playing with partners, I enjoyed everything we did: finger fucking, oral sex, penis/vagina intercourse, but none of these things brought me to that place that I could achieve so easily just by squeezing my legs together. When a partner would pay special attention to my clit, sometimes it felt great, but sometimes it was painfully ticklish, and I would wind up pushing them away, not knowing how to guide them. I began to analyze what I was feeling when I squeezed my legs together. How could I figure out how to show my partners how to get me off? I believed strongly that I deserved orgasms as part of partner sex, but I just didn’t know what worked, other than this obviously solo game of leg squeezing. I worked more with my fingers, messaging my clit, fucking myself with my fingers, and I bought my first vibrator. I quickly found that fucking myself with the vibrator felt great, but it wouldn’t bring me to orgasm. But if I clutched the vibrator between my legs, near, but not directly on, my clit, I could jerk myself off very easily. I realized that what I needed was strong pressure around my clit, but not directly on it. The pulse of the vibrator, or of my clenching and unclenching legs, provided exactly that.

As I began to play with my beloved C, and sex became more adventurous and fun than ever, he helped me with my exploration. I could tell him when the touch was too direct, and it made me uncomfortable rather than hot, and he would adjust until he found the right spot. I discovered that I loved the combination of penetration and clitoral simulation: his fingers fucking me, his thumb, sometimes joined by my fingers, rubbing that area above my clit.

I owe a lot to Ducky Doolittle, the amazing sex educator and former web cam girl. This is why you should continue going to great sex ed classes throughout your life. I thought I knew so much, but she was the first one to really explain the full extent of the clitoral anatomy: legs, shaft, hood, and all. I found this video link on Ducky’s site, from the legendary queen of masturbation Betty Dodson (and via Susie Sexpert herself, Susie Bright). This explains it much better than I could. I love these women! This diagram from wikipedia is also helpful.

Now I had a visual image of the internal anatomy of pleasure, and I could really begin to understand what was happening and what was working. I rub the area just above my clit, from the edge of the hood, up into my pubic mound. Throughout that area I can feel my erect clitoral shaft, and directly simulating that is what leads me most satisfyingly to orgasm. If I place the head of my Hitachi Magic Wand against that area, turn it up to full, and press down hard, I can orgasm in a minute. Not to say I’m always striving for such instantaneous efficiency in an orgasm, but knowing how that works helps me in other situations. I can create this stimulation with my fingers too, or someone else’s, if guided to the right spot.

Recently, I was playing with a lovely partner, and he’d fucked me good and hard with a couple of fingers, made me squirt and squeal. Then he bathed me with the warmth of his tongue, and I floated in the bliss of that. But then I wanted a mind-blowing clitoral orgasm to top off the night. He’s such a good student, this one. I showed him, simply, where to rub. People came running from the other playroom down the hall to watch the aftermath as I moaned and screamed with pleasure. So simple. Yet so infinitely complicated. Every woman different…

To be continued.

Don’t Miss CineKink

For those of you in NYC, your chance to see the best kinky and alt-sex films is coming up. CineKink: The really alternative film festival is back for #5! These films are hot, interesting, thought-provoking, and, did I mention hot! Highlights include parties, NY and US premieres, and discussions with filmmakers. I’m particularly looking forward to the following panel:

“Women Behind The Lens” – Panel Discussion: Whether they call their work erotica, pornography or adult entertainment, a growing number of female directors have been carving out key positions for themselves in the adult sector of the film production world.

A panel of these directors will discuss their roles within the industry and the individual approach each takes in depicting sexuality on screen. How does each reconcile the creative work they do with a feminist viewpoint? What are the ingredients of a truly hot sex scene? Is spit really an effective form of lubricant? Additional questions from the audience will be encouraged and film clips will be shown!

Moderated by Rachel Kramer Bussel, panelists to date include Shine L. Houston, Audacia Ray and Julie Simone.


Ticket prices for each regular screening program are $10; $8 in advance; $6 students and seniors. Party prices vary. Admission is restricted to those 18 years of age and older for all screenings; 21 years and older w/ID for all parties.


A limited number of discounted CineKink NYC All-Access festival passes, covering admission to all 16 film programs, the kick-off party, the awards ceremony and the afterglow party, are available in advance for $85; $75 for members of any alternative sexuality organization; $60 for students and seniors. A pass to film screenings only, the CineKink NYC Film Pass, may be purchased in advance for $70; $60 for members of any alternative sexuality organization; $50 for students and seniors.


Advance tickets and festival passes are available online via our CineKink NYC festival community on B-Side

Published in: on February 8, 2008 at 12:12 pm  Comments (3)  
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Après Soirée Musings

It was a great party. I’m not ready to write about my adventures in detail. I need to mull things over for a while. Enjoy having them to myself. Then, sometimes, eventually, they bubble up into blog entries. Sometimes not. This blog doesn’t exist to immediately chronicle every sex act in which I partake. I may be spending a good part of this year figuring out what IS the raison d’être of this blog, but I know that’s not it.

There are some thoughts bubbling over, however, from the weekend. I really like the dinner party/sex play party format. It creates a comfortable, casual atmosphere to begin the evening. It does mean that you have to just allow for a digesting period. I ate too much, despite my best efforts. The food was so good. Some people were already running upstairs to play, and I just wasn’t ready. Instead of getting frustrated, I got some fresh air in the back yard, drank some soda, and waited. Soon, I was ready.

I was feeling Toppish most of the night. My outfit worked out well for that. I stayed dressed for a long time, mainly playing the voyeur and occasionally reaching out to touch from the fortress of my clothes. Then I shed my blouse and skirt, and was very happy in my black panties, stocking, and boots. And with my favorite toy. I looked and felt quite the Domme, and had a lot of fun with that. Then I reached a point in the evening when I was ready to allow myself a different kind of pleasure, so I removed panties, stockings, and boots, and spread myself out for someone else. I enjoy deciding when to let go of control. That means I decide when I want to be touched. I really can’t let anyone touch my tits or pussy when I’m feeling Toppish. I’m so sensitive; a brush of my nipples or clit makes me lose control too quickly. Good things to know, and with which to play.

I enjoy playing with people I already know at parties. I won’t shut myself off to the chance electric encounter with a stranger, but it’s not my main goal at a party. To play with someone whom I know fairly well, and with whom I’ve shared a simmering of mentioned or unspoken desire, but have not yet had the opportunity to explore that desire… for that exploration to happen at a party, that is really the best scenario.

I must reiterate one of the points on the freaksexual post I linked to in my last entry: don’t get too drunk at a sex play party! It’s very unpleasant for the other people there, and it WILL NOT get you laid. I’m not saying don’t drink. I like a little liquor lubrication myself. But know your limits.

Published in: on January 15, 2008 at 2:01 pm  Leave a Comment  
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Dressing Up for Undressing

I’ll admit it: I find it very hard to get ready for a sex play party. The whole preparation makes me a nervous wreck. What to shave or not to shave? What to wear or not to wear? And you really need two outfits. What you arrive in, which should make you feel sexy, but also be street safe and comfortable enough to travel in, and then I usually also plan an “undressed outfit.” The basic version of this is usually a bra and panties with stockings and boots, all black. Sometimes I might try a variation. I have a cream colored corset-like thing I wore as a bridesmaid once, that makes a nice second outfit. And some cheap Fulton Street Mall lingerie that I’m fond of…
Tonight I have a cute new top from Torrid to wear (my favorite big girls clothing store/site), and I think I’ll go for the simple black undergarments for my later look. Of course, the hope is to eventually get naked, but I like to know what my in-between look is going to be.

Eating before a play party is also a concern. You need your strength and certainly don’t want to have a low blood sugar bitch attack, so eating something is crucial. But what to eat? I hate arriving at a party feeling too full and needing to spend hours digesting before I can think about playing. That’s happened to me too many times, especially when I’ve arranged a social dinner with friends before the party. I have friends who swear by Sushi as pre-play food, but Sushi doesn’t always sit right with me, so I find it risky. A sandwich, something with protein, easy on the fried foods, easy on the heavy starches (I try to avoid using the term “carbs,” it’s so diet industry!) Sadly, I must avoid the legumes pre-party. If you don’t know what I’m talking about you are lucky.

Tonight’s party is actually a dinner party and a sex party, so I’m planning to go nice and early to enjoy the eating portion of the evening, and then have plenty of time to digest and relax before thinking about any other activities. Wish me luck!

If you have sex party etiquette questions, check out this smart post by freaksexual.

Published in: on January 12, 2008 at 4:19 pm  Comments (2)  
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Happy New Year from Goldslut!

I started this blog as a New Year’s resolution for 2007.

New Year’s resolution 2008: write in blog!

This is a pic from my one nude photo shoot. Perhaps I will do another some day.


Goldslut’s Tush

Published in: on January 5, 2008 at 3:09 pm  Comments (4)  

I Heart Fatty D

And I love pink too.

April Flores aka Fatty D is one of the hottest big girls out there on the interweb. And Coop loves her too. That says a lot to me.

Published in: on November 24, 2007 at 11:22 am  Comments (5)  

Goldslut in Latex

I was at a little gathering of perverts at a bar a few months ago, when I spotted the Baroness. She is the, well, Baroness (no better description than the one she’s claimed for herself) of the local fetish scene. An enthusiastic proponent of latex, she designs and builds her own latex fashions in her workshop and boutique in the East Village. Then, once a month or so, she hostesses an event where people can strut their rubber-sheathed stuff. She participated in a fashion show that I organized at an event a while back. I wasn’t sure if she’d remember me, but I went over to pay my respects.

She greeted me happily. She’d been thinking about me. She was planning to launch a top-secret “Queen Size” latex line, and wanted me to model it at her upcoming fashion show. I was thrilled. A big girl in latex? I’ve never seen it.

Last weekend I showed up at the local fetish/BDSM club to latex myself up. The Baroness hadn’t had a lot of time to work on the new line, but she did have a black latex skirt that fit me perfectly. I wore it with my black leather corset, black sheer stockings, and black leather boots. I was surrounded my skinny young things in head-to-toe latex in jewel tones. They looked fantastic and so did I! It was so much fun. Sorry, no pictures, you know how people are about cameras at these fetish events.

I paraded onto the stage, wiggling my leather & latex-covered curves, shaking my voluminous ass, wrapped in a smooth, skin-tight package, at the crowd. The Baroness took the moment to spray her magic potion on the latex and literally shine my ass. The crowd whooped appreciatively. Then I strode off the stage and through the audience, allowing a few lucky watchers to stroke my skirt.

Goldslut gives a happy butt wiggle to fat women in latex. Now I have to save up for my own outfit.

P.S. I tried to find a photo to add to this post, but when I googled “fat women in latex” I got dozens of articles about Hollywood actors wearing latex fat suits in movies and some yucky videos. Baroness, we need your Queen Size Collection!

Published in: on November 23, 2007 at 1:23 pm  Comments (5)